Domestic Abuse and Family Violence Prevention and Services. If you or your children are experiencing abuse in your home, this is a serious thing. Many women suffer domestic abuse which may also spill over to your kids. Too many women and children lose their fight against domestic violence and die at the hands of their abuser. You are not alone.
Some programs and organizations can help you, with counseling and if necessary a safe place to go, when you feel you are in danger. If you were raised in an abusive home; you may grow up to find yourself in the same situation. No one should live in abuse. There are many types of domestic violence. All abuse causes shame, fear, low-self esteem, depression, and anger.
Finding Domestic Abuse Assistance
National Coalition Against Domestic Violence
The National Coalition Against Domestic Violence is an organization dedicated to changing the way the public responds to domestic abuse. They are the voice of those who have no voice and the hand that reaches out into the darkness. Their mission is, “The vision of NCADV is to create a culture where domestic violence is not tolerated; and where society empowers victims and survivors and holds abusers accountable.”
If you are a victim of domestic violence, please do not suffer in silence. There are organizations and trained people that can give you support and understand what you are experiencing. You must protect yourself and your children. Contact the organization in this post to get help with counseling, legal advice and a safe place to go for yourself and children. Many men and women who live in abusive situations don’t leave. Do not feel embarrassed if you have not reached out for help. The abuser is an expert at manipulation and creating fear in those they abuse. If you are not ready for help, we applaud your steps it getting help or getting away and into a healthy environment.
- Financial Help – Often abusers will make sure the person they are trying to control access to money. The reason for this is so that you will not have the ability to leave the abuser. NCASV can lead you to financial assistance and educate survivors of abuse to gain the financial means to re-establish themselves and obtain financial independence.
- Cosmetic Assistance – Survivors of abuse need plastic surgery after being but, burned, or sustaining broken bones. For these men and women, they offer reconstructive and cosmetic medical assistance for free.
- Help for Family or Friends – They offer instruction on how to talk to a friend, family member or someone who is in an abusive relationship.
- Help for Reproductive Coercion – Abuser sometimes insists on their partner becoming pregnant, knowing this will tighten their hold and make it more difficult for the person to leave.
- Support for HIV/AIDS – Women are 3 times more likely to have a diagnosis of HIV/AIDS because of intimate partner violence.
NCADV’s Main Office
One Broadway, Suite B210
Denver, CO 80203
(7233) 1.800.787.3224 (TTY)
The National Domestic Violence Hotline
NDVH has highly trained advocates, specifically, train in the area of abuse. The organization has been providing help to victims since 1996. You can find counseling and for victims, friends and family, abusers and a path to safety if you desire. They can help you with a personal plan to remain safe in your home, and a way to leave. They can also give you information concerning your legal rights in the relationship.
- National Violence Against Women Hotline
- Domestic Assistance – Salvation Army
- Catholic Charities Sanctuary for Women
- Help for Battered Women Guide
- Violence Against Women
Getting help with Domestic abuse can be tricky. Often the person needing help is in real danger if the abuser knows you are trying to leave or get help. Many shelters have programs to help women and children seeking a safe place to lay their heads.
The YWCA has been helping women and girls victims of abuse find help and safety. They are the largest promoter of domestic violence shelters and services throughout the United States. Each year more than a half million women and children receive services each year. The YWCA provides many services that help such as crisis hotlines, safe shelters for women and women and children and other help for victims of domestic abuse.
What is Domestic Abuse
According to the NCADA, Domestic Abuse is defined as, “Domestic violence is the willful intimidation, physical assault, battery, intimate assault, and/or other abusive behavior as part of a systematic pattern of power and control perpetrated by one intimate partner against another. It includes physical violence, intimate partner violence, psychological violence, and emotional abuse.”
What Domestic Abuse Sounds Like
- Look what you made me do
- Why do you make me hit you
- You always make me so angry
- I should have never married you
- Your so fat, nobody will else want you
- You’re too dumb to take care of yourself
- Where are you going to go? You need me
- If you leave, I will kill myself
- If you leave, I will kill you
What Domestic Abuse Looks Like
- Throwing things
- Breaking things
- Beating you
- Beating your children
- Taking the keys to your car
- Putting holes in walls and doors
- Not giving you money
- Tearing, burning throwing out your clothes
- Refusing to let you see friends or family